Submissive husbands – They are no longer myths

I’m not sexist. In fact, I am a subservient husband. To prove it, we follow a matriarchal system at home. Most of my friends are women. And I watch the lifestyle channel. If I don’t get more of a feminist than that, then I’d buy a leash and tie myself to a nearby pole.

Even as a child, I have been an advocate of feminism. I know how a woman’s psyche works. I know for a fact that most women need constant attention and like it better when men play it harmless or hesitate to make advances on them. A woman likes her man to be passionate about cooking and knitting (not that I dig and crochet) and reading books. Unfortunately, reality hit me when one day I woke up to the harsh truth of having let women take full control. All my indulgence and generosity began to fail.

There is a school of thought in my family that describes exactly how I have treated all the women in my life. I had to rephrase it because I had forgotten the exact saying, word for word. But the thought goes something like this: “Take the plow from the beast once and spend the rest of your life doing all its chores.” I cringed at how the metaphor was used to describe women in relationships. The thought of my mother and sisters having to “carry the plow” for the rest of their lives (or just from the moment they got married) irritated me the most. So I vowed not to treat women like dirt.

When I watch the news and see husbands go to jail for beating their wives to death, my normal reaction would be to nod as a sign of my affirmation of the punishment they received. I guess God designed men to be physically stronger than women because men can contain their emotions (this might explain why most heart-related death victims are men). But sometimes women can be man’s worst nemesis. If men use brute force to channel their anger, women’s techniques to express their anger are more artificial, well planned and mentally emotionally affective. Someone could hurt themselves on a hard knuckle sandwich, but when a woman starts talking (or shuts up as part of the cold treatment) she just breaks a man’s heart. I don’t know if the men I see are generally violent, but I know for a fact that when men begin to unleash their hidden forces, it must have been provoked to the point where the heart and mind could take no more. Not all men are idiots. Some say that to every man’s success it’s a woman who works behind the scenes, I still believe that. But I hope that if a woman were to read this article, she too would think that it is possible that, because of the transgressions and misgivings of all men, she, too, was to blame.

Sure Signs Your Girlfriend/Fiancee Is She-Hitler Waiting To Happen:

1. She never apologizes. Sometimes it’s natural for couples to have fights from time to time. But the best side of this is that they can make up after a fight. If your girlfriend or fiancée refuses to settle for admitting her faults or has gotten used to hearing you say “I’m sorry” first or seeing you walk away from the confrontation. To be alert. A woman who behaves like this even during the premarital stages of her relationship is likely to be more assertive of her right to be right all the time once she has decided to get married.

2. She hates your family or your family hates her. A woman who is hated by your family or who hates your family is a woman who assumes that she is on a different level in terms of values ​​and priorities. A woman of this type may feel that she knows better when it comes to social courtesies and matters that involve strong moral issues. A person who grew up in a family that is too lenient or with too strict rules is probably a person who will raise a family in the same way.

3. She thinks she knows more. A woman who values ​​her opinion more than others, she will most likely be the person who takes charge of the entire home. This type of person is usually very controlling and totally perfectionist. “You can’t say this.” “You can not do that”. “You can’t talk to this person.” “You can’t be with that person.” “Where’s my remote?” “What took you so long?” “Why did you do that in front of the help?” “What are you wearing?” “Why is your father like this?” are just a few examples from a long list of derogatory comments this person can make.

4. He is immune to his own rules. When my wife told me that she was not supposed to treat help with respect and courtesy, I thought in a way that maybe she was right. I also thought that maybe she was right in telling me not to contradict her in front of the help, but when I made a minor slip once, she chided me into full submission. Guess where? In front of the whole house! (neighbors included).

Possible solutions to the problem of the like:

1. Tell him about it. The possibility of telling women of such caliber is nil. But still, there’s a small window of luck that you could reason with. If she listens, great. If she starts bombarding you with accusations and outright denials, try step two.

2. Stand up for yourself. Go up a bit. Turn up the volume of your voice and be serious about making sure you get the message across. If she submits to this kind of treatment, she may be caught off guard. There is a possibility that he is beginning to consider your explanations point by point. If this ends with her raising her voice a decibel higher than your voice, move on to step 3.

3. Get outside help. I said “outside” help and not “professional”. There is a big difference. Professional help will appear in the last part of this article. When you get help, make sure this person is someone who means a lot to both of you, someone whose opinion you will respect and value. He/She does not need to be older. The important thing is that you really know that this person only seeks your well-being as a couple and not as individuals trying to favor one of them.

4. Seek the advice of professional people. Professionals include life coaches, psychologists, men and women of faith, support groups, therapists, etc. It goes without saying that not all professionals will do the counseling for free. Your approach will most likely prove effective, but only up to a point. Therapists are not on call 24/7. What if the sudden outbursts happen suddenly in the middle of the night? If therapy doesn’t work, seek a second, third, and even a fourth opinion. If this still doesn’t work, move on to the last and most critical step.

5. GET OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP while you can! This part is fundamental because it changes life. It will not only affect the person who opts for absolute separation, it will also affect the person who stays, not to mention the people involved in your life as a couple. Since you’ve done everything you can to save your relationship, people will eventually understand that you had no recourse but step 5. Remember: this is far from a toast that you haven’t married yet. But should such qualities be discovered within the marriage, the best thing to do is not to seek other than legal advice.

If you made it to step 5 and still end up single, remember that you have nothing to regret. There is virtue in fidelity, but at the end of the day, what really matters is how to bring out the best in each other. If you have failed in this aspect, it would be best to separate. Then push yourself to be the best person you can be, only this time, on your own.