How to Get Your Ex Back: 10-Step Plan to Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back
A breakup is hard and no matter how many times we go through one, it never gets easier. If they leave you, you could try to get your ex boyfriend back.
How to get your ex boyfriend back?
Don’t make these 10 mistakes:
Read my ezine article 10 mistakes women make when trying to get their ex back. Make sure you’re not making any of these common mistakes.
Don’t “Stay Friends”:
It’s impossible to stay friends after a break up and you will inevitably get hurt. You might think that seeing you will remind him that he likes you in his life, but that is the wrong approach. If he wants you in his life, it’s like his girlfriend or nothing. He’s going to miss you and by staying friends, he can more easily transition to a life without you because he can still get his “fix” of seeing you when he wants to. Don’t make it easy. You want him to miss you, and unless you get back together, he can’t have you.
Stay friends on Facebook but stay away for now:
If you read my column, the first thing I tell you to do after a breakup is to unfriend your ex on Facebook. This is a special circumstance. If you’ve just broken up and think there’s a chance to get back together, Facebook is a crucial part of your plan that I’ll detail later in the article. If you can’t win your ex back after a valiant effort, unfriend them later.
For the first 3 weeks to a month after you break up, I want you to stay off Facebook. Don’t even sign up. All you’re going to do is look for signs that he misses you (or signs that he’s moved on). It’s bad news. Stay off Facebook. For now.
Looking good:
We all get a little carried away when we’re in a relationship. It’s time to reverse that. The first thing to do is start exercising. You’re angry and hurt, and exercise is a great way to work through those emotions. Exercising will also bring you back to the way you were before the relationship, which will make you feel great. Looking good goes hand in hand with feeling good, and exercising releases endorphins that add to the feel-good party.
Makeover:
When women go through something big (like a breakup), they usually change their appearance. Think of all the times you changed your hair. Were you going through a difficult time? Welcome back. Let’s do something about it. Change something. Change your hair, your makeup, your wardrobe, whatever you want. It will make you feel better.
THE PLAN BEGINS:
At this point a few weeks have passed. You are starting to feel a little better and you look fantastic. If you decide you still want it back, it’s time to get to work.
Facebook is your friend:
At this point, you haven’t talked to him for at least 3 weeks and he wonders what you’ve been up to. It’s time to log back into Facebook. Change your settings so that your posts and images do not appear in your feed and you are prohibited from looking at it. It’s not about stalking him on Facebook (it’ll just annoy you), it’s about getting him a glimpse of your fabulous single life.
Post photos on Facebook:
You will start strategically uploading fabulous but ambiguous images of yourself. Do not go crazy! You don’t want a lot of photos of you having fun because it will be obvious that you are trying to get his attention. All you need is a few photos of you out on the town with your girlfriends. Choose a cute boy at the bar and take a photo with him. Tell him that you and your friends are having a contest to see how many cute guys you can take a picture with and smile with. Men can’t resist a nice smile and the guys in a bar are like putty in our hands. After you get your image, post it to Facebook with a caption. Just put some pictures of you and a picture of you with the cute boy.
Get tagged in pictures on Facebook:
You have to enlist the help of your friends. You can’t be the only one uploading photos because it looks like you’re trying to get their attention. Ask your girlfriend(s) to upload some photos and tag you. We need straight shots of you and the cute guy talking. While you can’t write captions on your photos, your girlfriend should. She can write cute little things like, “I just wouldn’t give up” or “Good times.”
The goal is to make your ex wonder what’s going on, but don’t lie. Lying is never the answer; the ambiguity is Don’t pretend you have a new boyfriend if you don’t. The goal is to make your ex realize that you are single, available, and that guys are taking notice.
Keep ignoring your ex:
If your ex boyfriend tries to contact you, keep ignoring him. If he wants you back after breaking up with you, he needs to make a big gesture. It doesn’t have to do a “Say Anything”-style John Cusack, but it does have to be substantial. Until that happens, ignore it. Men are hunters. If they want something they go after it and if he really wants you back he will come for you. You need to wait.
Socialize with your ex:
You cannot force this or manipulate your way to make it happen. Since they probably share mutual friends, they will eventually socialize with each other. When this happens, try to follow the final rule in my ezine article 10 Mistakes Women Make When Trying To Get Their Ex Back: Do not go alone. He tries to lead you to a guy your ex doesn’t know. Go to the party as a friend of the mystery man and keep it warm from him. Don’t pretend you’re dating someone if you’re not because it will seem fake. It won’t matter if you’re just friends with your mystery man because your ex now thinks there’s another man in your life. Don’t ignore his ex, be polite and say hello and be sure to introduce your friend. If he still harbors feelings for you, seeing you with another man will cause him to seriously reevaluate his feelings for you.
Following these tips will give you a chance to win your ex back. However, sometimes no matter how hard you try, nothing is going to work. It’s just over and the sooner you accept it the better. If you’ve tried all of these techniques and he’s still not calling you back, maybe it’s time to move on.